Gays and s: Am I being a little too fair to my wife's lover?

Wow, what a crazy story. First off, you are rude for comparing Bridget to a man no matter how masculine she is. She's no less of a woman than your wife is. Yes, what you did to Bridget was completely messed up. Do you have any idea how hard it is to be a gay male or a in high school? With that being said, I think Bridget is being immature for seeking revenge on you for something that happened over a decade ago. You all were young and immature; it was high school. Bridget needs to let it go. Your kids should not have to suffer because of her selfish antics. Sure, they may like her, but she will never take the place of their daddy(you). Again, you and Alicia really hurt Bridget, but she should have recovered by now. I hope you and Alicia can work it out; you love her and I'm sure she loves you. Maybe this Bridget thing is a "heat of the moment situation". Best of luck :).